Thank you for the great feedback we got from Tom’s post last week!
I don’t know if Tom was feeling extra mushy because of my birthday and Love day (did you know on Daniel Tiger they’re not allowed to say Valentine’s Day?)- but I truly appreciated Tom’s opinion on my current ‘job’.
I’m here to talk from my perspective as a stay at home mom about how it affects our family.
Holding off desperately for a haircut…
I did a little test this morning. Setting a timer for five minutes, I tallied the number of times Luca said “mom.” Total: 29. So, 29 x 12 = 348 in one hour. I estimate that he’s awake for 10.5 hours a day. So then 348x 10.5 = 3,654 times he says “mom” in one day (give or take).
Let me repeat that. 3,654 times he says “mom” in one day. Yep.
Don’t get me wrong. I do truly love that Luca talks a lot. And I do love that he’s obsessed with me (he is). But every once in awhile I get tired of it and really miss silence!
Since I stay at home with Luca instead of working, I am with him 1-on-1 for the majority of the week. He is a bonafide momma’s boy. He is extremely comfortable with me and comforted by me. And that’s a mother’s dream! Really!
I think it’s ingrained in a mom to nurture and comfort their child. And I’m sure there’s a scientific reason why- hormones and stuff- but it makes you, as a mom, feel great.
Let me catch you up. Since we’ve been transitioning to one nap, Luca is overtired at bedtime and is hard(er) to put down. Once he falls asleep he’s okay usually, but it’s the act of falling asleep that’s been tough. As I told you all before, Luca is comforted by this mole that I have.
I’ve been putting him to bed more often than Tom lately because it’s easy for me. Every time Tom has gone through the routine, it’s ended with “No! Mommy! Please!!” And I try to resist him but ultimately, I’m weak.
So Tom is getting frustrated because all of the work he does to get Luca to sleep is reversed when I go in after him, and I am frustrated because Luca only wants me.
So that’s where we’re at right now. We are both pro-cry-it-out once we know that everything is okay (full belly, dry diaper, healthy, etc) so we will need to go for it again. We will update you on the progress that we make!